The good news is each of us is responsible for where we are and how we got here. Yes, our life is in the condition it is because of the choices we have made or didn’t make along the way. The up side of this reality is we have the power to change it if we don’t like what we are experiencing.
The first step in the process is realizing you are responsible. You create everything in your reality, wanted or unwanted without exception. Typically, this idea is met with a lot of resistance when someone hears for the first time they are the creator of their life experience. Most say “how can that be? I would not have created a life that looks like this!”
This is your life, your movie, your creation. I do agree you would not deliberately create something you don’t want. But until you understand how your thoughts, perspectives, beliefs, responses to circumstances, and approach to life impact the outcome, you simply create by default.
Step back and view the events of your life as a by-stander. Really examine the results of how you think, respond and handle life. Be a witness, objective and detached as if you were examining someone else’s life. Is it easier to see how your thought processes, emotions and attitudes have shaped your world?
You know these trite but true expressions – you reap what you sow, self-fulfilling prophecy, and you get what you focus on. We all have experienced such platitudes as misery loves company, the rich get richer, and happy people are luckier. Your outer world is simply a reflection of your inner world. Said another way, your life is a reflection of your thoughts. What are you thinking?
If you don’t like what you see, you can change the way you think and get different results. The beauty of being responsible is it allows you to come from a position of empowerment – knowing you are the one directing your life. This empowerment is more life-enhancing and freeing than coming from the space of powerlessness, of being a victim, and blaming your circumstances on forces outside of yourself.
There is not another person that can create in your experience. This is your world, your story, your creation. In all situations, the power of creation remains with you. Just as important is to develop the ability to not judge where you are as being good or bad, or right or wrong. It just is what it is, with no meaning attached.
Things only have meaning because we have learned to give them a meaning based on what we were taught growing up. Where you are is exactly where you need to be! If you had known differently you would have done differently.
The insight you gain from just realizing you are in control will be something that will forever change the direction of your life. It allows you to now be aware that you have the power to enjoy life the way it was meant to be – with joy, eagerness and enthusiasm. Never again will you find yourself in a position to allow circumstances, people or events to determine whether you will have a good day or a bad day.
Ask yourself if this philosophical approach makes sense to you. Really check in with yourself and see if it resonates with what you believe to be truth. Question your beliefs about who is responsible for where you are and decide if those beliefs really do serve you well. Are your beliefs limiting your ability to enjoy your life? It’s time you become your best friend and begin to rewrite beliefs!